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The Power of Your Mentality “
Happiness depends on your mindset and attitude.” ― Roy T. Bennett An old proverb states: “As a man thinketh, so is he.” Without a doubt, this statement is of sincere truth. Our thoughts and beliefs serve as the invisible forces which attract all situations and experiences into our life. If we nurture positive beliefs, and sustain a healthy mentality, it is likely we will experience an abundance of happiness, health, and prosperity. Similarly, if we nurture an unhealthy mentality, we will solely attract into our life things comprised of negativity and unhappiness.
Therefore, the form of mentality that we nurture determines our life’s overall course and direction; it determines our destiny. First, to truly understand this, it is crucial that you comprehend how your thoughts and beliefs work together in physically creating your reality. “Your beliefs become your thoughts, your thoughts become your words, your words become your actions, your actions become your habits, your habits become your values, and your values become your destiny.” – Mahatma Ghandi Sincerely, I could not express this in any better or improved fashion. Ghandi hit it on the spot. Your beliefs become your thoughts, and through the process of manifestation, they are created and implemented physically into your life.
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The Art of Belief Your mentality consists of the set of beliefs and ideologies you nurture that make you think, feel, behave, and act a certain way. If you nurture beliefs that make you feel unconfident, inadequate, and unhappy, every likelihood is that your thoughts will attract those things and experiences into your life. This happens because negative emotions program your mind to behave a certain way and act in a restricted manner. For instance, if you are walking on the road and see a dog running towards you, you will register the emotion of fear, a negative emotion, and you will begin to run away from the dog. You associate that emotion with running away and the moment you register that emotion, you take action.
That negative emotion restricted your mind and made you act a certain way even though different options were available to you. Because you do not want to see any other options, you will not be able to: even if they are right in front of you.
This is a clear indication that negative emotions cause you to negate your thoughts, narrowing your perspective or way of thinking. You stay focused on only one option, which is why you invite similar experiences. Therefore, if you have been stuck in a period of sorrow, angriness, or unhappiness, your negative perspective will continuously cause situations which will make you feel similar emotions. As opposed to this, nurturing positive emotions makes you think positive, which helps you explore more options.
In fact, a groundbreaking research study by Barbara Fredrickson shows that those who nurture a positive mentality have a frame of mind that allows them to explore different options and create new opportunities: one’s that their negative mindset would have restricted them from.
At the most basic level, positive thoughts broaden your horizon and give you hope that you can do amazing things. When you tell yourself that nothing can limit your potential, how you can be better, and how good things will happen to you, you will start to believe these things.
Your subconscious will accept these beliefs and use them to shape a “growth” mindset that shall invite those sorts of things into your life. You will act on the belief that you are unlimited, and you will create something truly outstanding and impactful. You will act on the belief that you can be better, and you will never stop striving to improve yourself. You will believe that not only good, but GREAT things could happen to you, and if you truly believe it, they will!
Once these things become your beliefs, they will be transformed and altered into your thoughts. From this, your mind will change, you will change, and your world will change. When you are strong and positive, you do not back out of challenges. Instead of succumbing to obstacles, you boldly face them and learn from them; this helps you grow. Moreover, you are not scared of pursuing your dreams or setting bigger goals; this invites prosperity and abundance into your life.
That’s not all; you begin to trust yourself, and I cannot begin to emphasize the importance of that. You start to dig deeper into your personality, and you begin to genuinely discover your true potential: your unlimited potential. These changes make you a better person and improve your emotional well-being. Naturally, when you are mentally healthy, even your health starts to perk up too.
To live a good life characterized by good health, wealth, love, and happiness, the first thing you must do is work on your mindset.
Build Successful Beliefs “There is no black-and-white situation. It's all part of life. Highs, lows, middles.” – Van Morrison If you always see things from a negative perspective, it is because you have developed the habit of doing so. Since this habit has taken root in your subconscious, it is now quite challenging to get rid of it. Nonetheless, challenging has never meant impossible. For you are the creator of your destiny. And for you, nothing is impossible. The right way to let go of a negative mentality is through slowly building the habit of developing strong beliefs that help you frame situations in a more optimistic outlook. To do that, you first need to gain insight into your negative thoughts and explore them so you can determine their meaning and source.
This helps you know why you developed those thoughts, and whether they are genuine, or not. A great way to gain a deeper insight into your thought process is to learn how to calm your racing mind and focus on your thoughts by practicing meditation. This is an extremely important and healthy habit to develop to improve your mentality, but since this is a bigger subject altogether, we shall discuss it in the next chapter. For now, your task is to understand your negative mindset and slowly develop beliefs that help you become more optimistic.
To do that, implement the following plan:
1.First, choose a time of day when you are free and can devote about 10 or more minutes to yourself. 2
2. When you have those uninterrupted 10 minutes, take your journal, sit somewhere quiet, and think of any limiting or negative belief that upsets you.
3. Write down that belief and then question its authenticity. Does that belief apply to every situation? Do you have any proof proving otherwise? Have others told you that thing? For instance, if one of your belief states, “I am a failure,” rummage through your memory in search of evidence that proves or disproves this belief.
4. Once you learn to question your belief and ask the right questions, your mind will start seeking answers. Your mind answers questions depending on how you ask those questions. If you ask yourself “Am I a failure,” your mind will show you instances that prove you are. However, if you ask it questions like “Have I done anything that proves I am not a failure?” You will start to think of many instances that show you are indeed a hardworking person.
5. Next, reply to that belief in a more positive tone. If a belief states, “I didn’t do that chore correctly so I’ll be terrible at it,” change it to “So what if I made a few mistakes in the start. If I stay persistent and put in my best effort, I’ll definitely be better at it.” Similarly, talk to yourself in this manner keeping your beliefs in consideration and change the connotation of all your beliefs.
6. Do this for 10 minutes and by the time you complete the exercise, you will feel a lot more positive than you did before. You must engage in this exercise every day and whenever you do, treat yourself to a nice meal, get yourself a little present, or do something that makes you happy:
always remember to reward yourself. This positively reinforces this healthy practice, helps you stick to it, which in turn helps you make it a subconscious habit.
The thing is: you cannot go far in life if you consistently put yourself down.
But if you constantly nurture the habit of staying positive, you can bet that you will see yourself from a different perspective, and you will begin to make subconscious decisions that will set you up for the level of success you desire to achieve.
With the passage of time, you will learn to talk to yourself in a positive manner,
which will help you shun your inner critic: the negative inner voice that chides you.
This will help you counter all the unhealthy beliefs that poison your life and s
In the beginning, you will notice that you catch yourself thinking negatively of different situations. Don’t critic yourself when you do; simply be conscious of this and rephrase your thoughts with positive ones.
Affirm and Believe “Belief consists in accepting the affirmations of the soul; unbelief, in denying them.” ― Ralph Waldo Emerson Affirmations are phrases and statements you repeatedly say to yourself to speak a certain belief into your life.
These self-proclaimed suggestions can be neutral, positive, or negative, and when you frequently say them to yourself, your subconscious begins to accept them as your own. Once your subconscious mind accepts something, the suggestion imbeds itself into your neural pathway and begins shaping your thinking.
Affirmations work in a similar manner as your thoughts: they influence your subconscious mind to shape your beliefs. This means that if you frequently say positive things to yourself and tell yourself you can achieve something, you will eventually start to genuinely believe it.
These positive thoughts will attract great opportunities and experiences towards you, and will allow you to truly prosper and succeed.
A study discussed in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Science examined the effects of positive affirmations on the VMPFC (ventromedial prefrontal cortex) region of the participants’ brain.
VMPFC is the part of your brain related to self-relevance, which associates with your self-esteem, self-image, and self-confidence.
Researchers divided participants into two groups: a control group that received positive affirmations right before brain scans, and another group that received positive affirmations a little while before the scanning began.
The results of the study clearly showed that the group that received positive affirmations a little while before the scans showed higher levels of activity in the VMPFC region as compared to the control group.
This proves that if you ruminate on, and frequently repeat a positive suggestion for a considerably long time, you are likely to experience thoughts and feelings similar to your positive suggestion. Without a doubt, this makes you feel capable: a quality that can allow you to achieve profound greatness, and set you on the path to unfathomable levels of success.
If you turn practicing positive affirmations into an everyday habit, you will strengthen your self-belief, develop an attitude that is friendly to the pursuit of your dreams, and build an empowered life. You will stop settling for the mediocre, and instead settle for nothing less than what adds actual value to your life.
This will ultimately help you cultivate the life of your dreams. Next… Now that you understand the power of affirmations, here is what you need to do to practice them regularly:
1. Think of anything you want to change in yourself, any area you want to improve at, or any goal you want to achieve.
2. Write down that thing or goal and then build a positive and present-oriented affirmation around it.
Positive here means your affirmation should not include words that have a negative connotation; words such as ‘not, never, and ‘cannot.’
Your subconscious does not recognize the word “not”. When you use the phrase in an affirmaaffirmation, the mind changes the suggestion accordingly.
For instance, if you said, “I am not going to be sad,” your subconscious mind will change the affirmation to “I am going to be sad.” Rather than using negative words in your suggestions, focus on positive words. If you wish to be happy, say, “I am happy.” Further, the affirmation must be present-focused which means it should make you feel as if you have already achieved your intention.
For instance, to attract abundance into your life, say, “I am enjoying great abundance in my life” instead of saying “I want to live a life full of abundance.” When you say the latter or any affirmation focused on the future, an affirmation such as
“I am going to work hard” or “I am going to be successful,” your thoughts will focus on the future and your present will remain devoid of that blessing or goal.
As you create affirmations, create positive and present-oriented affirmations.
3. Keep your affirmation as clear and concise as possible.
An affirmation of 20 to 30 words is ok, but it is best to keep your affirmation about seven to ten words long. Shorter affirmations are easier to speak, recall, and you can easily repeat them.
4. After crafting your affirmation, write it down in your journal and chant it aloud for about 10 to 20 minutes. To improve its effectiveness, write down the affirmation as you speak it. 5 Speak each word loudly and clearly. Emphasize important words in the affirmation. If an affirmation reads “I breathe in confidence and exhale stress,” then emphasize breathe in, confidence, exhale, and stress.
6. Feel what you say. If you say, “I am happy,” actually smile and inject your maximum belief into the suggestion. The more you believe what you say, the stronger it will affect your mind; when you truly believe something, you become ready act upon that belief. To understand this effect, say “I am happy” twice. In the first instance, say it half-heartedly, then repeat the same statement with complete belief, and as you do it, put a big grin on your face. Compare the feelings you experience the second time with those you experience the first time. You will notice a remarkable difference in how you feel now. You will truly start to feel good and happy inside. This is the power of belief.
7. Truly visualize yourself achieving the goal you just set. If you are saying, “I am happy,” imagine yourself being the happiest person in the world and feeling that the whole world belongs to you. If you are saying, “I am successful and wealthy,” envision being the most prosperous person in the world and living a life filled with nothing other than success and abundance. Live each moment of your visualization and you will start to feel what you say. The practice of combining belief and positive affirmations and then visualizing them turns the affirmation into an incantation. Incantations are a practice Tony Robbins, world-renowned self-help author and coach, swears by. An incantation is simply an empowering suggestion you give to yourself to improve your mentality.
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8. Keep practicing this for 10 to 20 minutes or more. For best results, do it twice a day.
9. For even better results, do it once immediately after waking up and then before going to bed. When you say empowering things to yourself when you rise, you set a positive basis for your day.
Secondly, by repeating those or similar suggestions before going to bed, you give yourself positive mental food to linger in your mind while you sleep. This will place your mind in a certain state, allowing you to wake up in the mood your suggestion promotes.
Try this practice for a week and the results will amaze you.
They will not only put you and cause you to remain in awe, but they will also motivate you to stick to the practice for good. As you work on improving your mentality for the better, make way for another great habit in your life: meditation.
This practice helps you gain complete insight into why you behave a certain way and why you support a negative mindset. This allows you to know yourself better and gradually let go of everything that holds you back.
As a result, it becomes easier to let go of past resentments and grudges and become more forgiving and thankful. That’s not all; meditation can help you to improve your focus, become more productive and even a lot healthier:
all of which are important ingredients for success.
This is but one example of how we ruin our present when we do not dwell in it and instead live somewhere in the past or future.
Not being mindful affects our daily routine in various ways.
Think of the frustration you experience when you are stuck in traffic or how angry you get when you and your partner fail to agree on an issue. Several things happen to you every day where, had you behaved sanely and lived in the present, you could have managed the situation in a more positive and efficient manner.
Not being mindful of the present moment and failing to accept is a mistake many of us commit.
This mistake births unhealthy thoughts that when held onto, birth unhealthy mindsets. To feel healthy, you need to foster the growth of a healthy mindset.
Only after cleansing your mind of unhealthy thoughts can you develop the willpower to develop habits that lead to self-improvement. If that is your goal, it is important that you learn the art of meditation. How exactly does meditation make you more mindful of your present ? Turn the page and find out.
The Power of Meditation Meditation saves you by stabilizing your brainwave frequencies. We (humans) have five brainwave states: Gamma with a frequency ranging from 40 to 100Hz, beta with a frequency ranging from 12 to 40Hz, alpha with a frequency between 8 to 12Hz, theta with a frequency ranging from 4 to 8Hz, and Delta with a frequency between 0 to 4Hz. Our brain functions in the gamma and beta state. While these states are important to think, stay alert, and make decisions, when our brain constantly functions in these states, it becomes difficult for us to stay calm and think rationally.
We then experience the ‘racing mind.’ Meditation helps you unwind. It does so by stabilizing these brainwave states, and by shifting your mind from the beta state to the alpha or even theta state whenever you want. By helping you focus on one thing at a time, and dig deeper into your mind, meditation instills in you the awareness you need to understand your thoughts and quickly calm down your mind when need be.
This helps you slow your mind, remain composed, live in the present, and let go of everything that does not benefit you in that moment. Along with this, it allows you to concentrate on placing your focus on the things that are going to bring happiness and positivity in to your life. When you dwell in the moment, you become more aware of your present blessings; this helps you build the habit of gratitude. Not only that, meditation (especially mindful meditation) can help you become more forgiving and kind towards yourself and others.
When you let go of the resentment you feel, you become more forgiving, and you prepare yourself to create and nurture meaningful relationships. Meditation also helps you practice self-forgiveness and self-acceptance. When you learn to dismiss thoughts that trigger stressful thinking, let go of all the mistakes you made in the past, and stop being over-concerned about your future, you start to forgive yourself for the mistakes of your past.
This helps you accept yourself wholeheartedly and be at peace with yourself. It allows you to truly improve; when you know yourself better, you identify your shortcomings and become committed to improve them. Naturally, when you witness that improvement, you begin to feel proud of yourself, which alters your self-loathe, and converts it to self-love.
This consequently reduces your stress levels and helps you enjoy a more-fulfilled and content life. As if that is not enough, meditation improves your creative skills, relationships, resilience, decision-making, and problem-solving skills. Because this practice is incredibly brilliant, meditation is one of the 27 life-changing habits you should practice to bring in health, happiness, and prosperity.
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